"I don't mind awareness posts and articles about a lot of things. But I think sometimes things are blown out of proportion. Some women like to share how they've been "victimized", and there are many cases where it actually is true. I know some. I think sometimes though, it's taken too far and small things that aren't actually supposed to be grouped with actual victimization are grouped in anyway.
But, as someone that has problems with both genders sometimes, the people who want to expand the definitions into areas that really don't fit forget what it's like on the other side. I've seen and known just as many (or more) guys hurt or victimized by women, but because they're a guy, their opinion isn't heard or it's "irrelevant". "Guys don't talk about their feelings." Guys can be at fault in many things, but women have their own ways. I have seen several examples of female "I'm right, you're wrong" attitudes that continue regardless of what the man says.
If that attitude continues into the area of equality or rights, at this rate, eventually female rights will try to take over male rights. If you really want equality, both sides need to realize they are equally hurt. Sure, guys can be jerks. But so can women. What the guys do just gets more publicity. Why? You hear about every kind of abuse that men can do to women, but when a woman is emotionally or mentally abusing a man, the man just needs to suck it up, according to the women. How many times do you hear a woman tell another that she needs to shut up because her man is right? Not often. So many men have been hurt emotionally by careless or uncaring girls, but what's done for them? Nothing. What's done for the women? Anything that can be pulled out of people with the right spokespeople.
I'm sorry women, but yes, I understand a lot of you may have been hurt. But don't take things too far and overthink it. Generally men don't read into things as deeply as you do, so if they see an argument that you took into irrelevant areas, they should be upset. And, don't forget about the men out there who try to do everything and get heartbreak and emotional scars in return. I'm guilty of causing a few scars myself, and I'm not proud of it. I've been a victim of some things from both genders, and some left scars I didn't really even realize were there. However, I focus on letting go of those things, not making either gender into something horrible and blowing things out of proportion.
(And please don't say that persistence on the guys' part is rape even when there's nothing physical or abusive about it. Some guys have to be persistent to even have a chance with a girl, but of course in movies, the guys are normally cute or sexy or whatever. Girls have known how annoying it can be when a guy isn't interested in them. They may think no one looks at them, when the ones who do, they won't even consider. So in order to even have a chance, if the guy is ABLE to muster enough confidence, he's probably going to need a lot of persistence to get anywhere at all, sometimes even to get just friendship.)
I may not be very girly most of the time, but I'm still female. I actually probably align more with guys' thinking, because I really don't understand girls. What I DO understand, though, is that equality doesn't just involve the good things. It also includes realizing that both genders have made mistakes, and that you can't blame the whole gender for some things, though it is VERY tempting, especially when many of one gender tend to do one thing. What about the women who are stubbornly right and won't accept the man's point of view? It happens in TV and movies and it happens in real life too. Who will you blame?
Women, I understand some of you are actual victims. But some noisy ones just take it too far, and so many times I've seen just as many guys hurt by women. If those guys aren't able to speak up, then I will speak up for them, because sometimes it takes a woman to say these things. Why? The same reason they're hurt. The women that hurt them wouldn't listen. (Sorry to the one friend who I saw the article in question from, but honestly, I think the article is overblown. I was actually more in agreaance with the comments I saw on the article page, because several people were thinking of both sides.)"
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